You’re angry. He’s angry. What’s new? Come to think of it, it’s been a long time since you’ve enjoyed each other’s company.
How long has it been since you’ve really laughed with your spouse? You can practically hear Tom Hank’s voice paraphrasing his famous line, “There’s no laughter in marriage.”
But what if the laughter in your marriage really was gone? All love … gone. All kindness … gone.
Imagine what it would be like if we all stopped believing the best of each other. If we reached the point in our relationships (and in our society) where we totally gave up on one another?
What if … what if our heavenly Father totally withdrew His kindness from you and me? What if He said, “Enough is enough”?
Have you thought about how often God’s kindness has kept you from totally messing up your life? How often His unending and unbending compassion has kept you safe at the cliff’s edge? Read the last part of Romans 2:4 (AMP), “God’s kindness leads you to repentance [that is, to change your inner self, your old way of thinking—seek His purpose for your life].” His compassion (not His anger) leads us away from our sinful paths.
What if we appreciated our heavenly Father’s mercy so much that it became the motivation for all we did? All we hoped to become? All we are to become?
Just as God’s loving-kindness keeps us from throwing in the towel, our words and acts of kindness could be what encourages someone not to give up on themselves Rather than feeling like they might as well give up, perhaps they’d resolve to give it another try.
And wouldn’t this kind of behavior help us like ourselves better too?
I never feel better about myself when I’m mean to someone. I don’t remember a time I ever went to bed at night glad I disrespected my husband that day. Meanness never enhances a relationship. Disrespect never endears someone to us – or us to ourselves. Not ever.
Loving kindness could be the very thing that will help us enjoy each other’s company once again. It could help us get to the place where we would want to look for the good in one another. And it could be the very thing that will bring laughter back into our marriages.
Sheryl H. Boldt is the author of the blog, www.TodayCanBeDifferent.net. You can reach her at SherylHBoldt@gmail.com.